As part of this study sabbatical, I've prioritized learning more about how I can better look after myself with a particular focus on wellbeing. Towards the end of 2024, I was burnt out. I felt incredibly unwell physically and mentally drained. I didn't realise it until the year had ended and work stopped.
As a woman in leadership, I know about the importance of self-care. We hear about it and talk about it all the time in our principal groups, and at conferences and workshops. So I found it difficult to wrap my head around the fact that I hadn't taken in all that I'd learned in this space. The question is "What works for me? How can I look after myself better?".
This year I intend to find that out, to help me become a better leader in my community. As part of this learning, I'm reading to add effective tools into my kete that work for me and I'm starting with the book "Atomic Habits" by James Clear. What a great place to start! This book is a great window into understanding habits, making and breaking them, and reflecting on how I manage my life both professionally and at home. As I read, I highlighted the lightbulb moments that gave me motivation and affirmation of what I'm already doing and what I can do better. These are a few of the gems I took from this book:
- 1% better every day and how the effects of small habits compound over time.
- Forget about goals, focus on systems.
- Three layers of behaviour change - outcomes, process, and identity (Identity being the most important - habits matter because they help you become the person you want to be).
- Design and environment of success - this matters more than motivation (make cues of good habits obvious in your environment and cues of your bad habits invisible).
- Prime your environment to make future actions easier.
- We imitate the habits of 3 groups - the close, the many, and the powerful. We soak up the qualities and practices of those around us (join a culture where your desired behaviour is the normal behaviour).
- Life feels reactive, but it's actually predictive - you are endlessly predicting what will happen in the next moment.
- Reprogramme your brain to enjoy hard habits - imagine changing just one word from 'have' to. You 'get' to.
- Make it easy for habits to happen - the most effective form of learning is practice, not planning.
- To build a habit you need to practice it (action).
- Focus on action, not being in motion - being in motion is planning and strategising but they don't produce results. Action is the type of behaviour that will deliver outcomes.
- Walking...I'm not saying daily because I don't want to beat myself up if I miss a day. So I'm going to aim to walk 4-5 days per week and cover 5-6kms per walk. This is manageable because I've now got the time to do it...and a dog that needs walking.
- Skincare. This is something I've never been good at nor consistent in and it's one thing that is noticeable to me. I always think I'm too tired or too busy to think about looking after that side of myself, so a visit to a skin care clinic and the purchase of a few products to make a habit of looking after my skin more consistently is important to me. Prioritising this particularly before I fall into bed each night is one habit I want to focus on.
- Creating an environment to make these two things happen - walking gear ready to go the night before (the first thing I see when I get out of bed), and skincare products at the ready in the bathroom.
- Eating...no more processed food purchases - particularly my kryptonite (potato chips and ice cream). Change out the junk for fresh whole foods e.g: carrots and humus or nuts for snacks. I also love to juice so will get back into my juicing routine.